Often at times, we forget how things may have transpired. It could be something small like the how bright the lights are in a room used to be to the now missing rug which our partner swears was never there in the first place causing us to distrust ourselves and our sense of reality. These are common tactics used by mostly sociopaths to control and manipulate a person or their feelings so that we slowly lose our sense of self and begin to think of our memories as false and untrue and become reliant on our partners for a sense of direction.
The version that they present to you of something recent could be totally different than yours. It usually starts small so that the fact that you’re being gaslighted doesn’t become obvious right from the get-go. In the example mentioned previously, you think the lights in the room always had a certain brightness to it and one day they don’t but your partner assures you that they were always like that. Though you’ve spent plenty of time in this room yourself, you might feel like something is off but if you’re the only person who sees it like that, you might convince yourself that what your partner said is actually true and that you simply don’t recognize it.
This is one of the signs of gaslighting in relationships: 7 signs + how to put out the flame are how you suddenly begin to feel isolated. Some people try to use not only their own words but also the people you usually surround yourself with as weapons to further deteriorate your mental state. These abusive individuals make full use of the tactic of gaslighting and find the right people they can to further their cause to drive you into a corner with nowhere else to run.